What do you tolerate, and what are you settling for?

Teabags belong into other places than the sink

Well, hello there!

Thank you for popping by and wanting to know more about this topic what we tolerate and what we settle for – and how to not do that!

So, grab this journal entry, your favourite beverage and relax into a couple of minutes wisdom from your Kraken. By the way, if you haven’t read the post about the "Hell, Yeah!", "Hell, NO!" technique yet, I highly recommend doing this first, by just simply clicking on the phrase.

Let’s get started then, shall we?

What is it that you choose?

What do you tolerate, and what are you settling for?

I assume, that based on the newfound knowledge and ideas from the former journal entry, you will now easily navigate this new tool. The key to both topics is: Be honest and true to yourself.

I have some questions for you to start with, that will help explore the Tolerate and Settle:

• Are you maybe tolerating, that someone leaves their teabag in the sink all the time, and never just throws it into the burgundy bin?

• Are you tolerating that the VA or other person you hired, does not comply to what you told them to do?

• Are you settling for that cheap butter, although you would love to have the good one?

• Are you settling for a cheap logo, only because it’s cheap?

We all have things in our lives which we tolerate or settle for, but the issue with that is that this damages the flow in our lives and businesses. But let’s stick with the business site here: We are running a business, and our positive energy helps us being the best versions of ourselves, and therefore empower everything and everyone around us. When we start feeling anger and annoyance when we tolerate and settle, we will ponder over that which angers and annoys us and our energy flows towards negativity, and leads to unclear decisions and more negativity coming in, doesn’t it?

But can you imagine how wonderful it will feel, when you tell that hired person, that you are the boss and need the things to be done in the way that is beneficial for you and your business?

A great example here is brand guidelines: They outline exactly what language (the messaging) is to be used, what colours and fonts, which logo or icon goes on which background, etc. pp., and that’s all for building brand awareness and recognition. When the VA does not adhere to the branding rules when creating your social media posts or other things, they are actively working against your brand building efforts. It’s like hiring a style expert who goes with what they like, but not what actually suits you – and you find yourself all of a sudden in a chequered tux and a red nose!

Now, imagine how absolutely amazing it would feel, if you would have had the logo done by a professional, and have received so many different versions which you can apply with ease to anything that you create? You have all the icons, and the primary and secondary logo, and all the different colour variations that allow you to really show it off, and create brand recognition? And it feels so safe to do, as the designer has your back?

When you start to get to terms with yourself and stop tolerating and settling, amazing new things will happen – much like with the “Hell, yeah” technique.

Patience and determination are the key to a lot of things

I kid you not, it takes patience (especially with yourself), quite a bit of discipline and learning to stay strong, but it is one of the most rewarding gifts that you can give yourself. We all want to be happy, and we all want to see things working out in our favour, don’t we?

When you do this exercise, take a sheet of paper and draw two columns – one for the tolerate, one for the settle – and write all the things down that fit this topic.

When you are done, you can for example cross map your results with the “Hell, Yeah! Hell, No” sheet and see where there are similarities. It could very well be that a Hell, No is indirectly (or directly) connected with something you tolerate/settled for.

Now the question is: Will you say “Hell, NO!” to a Tolerate or Settle, and bin it?

When this seems to be difficult, start with something small like the teabag and butter example, and work your way up to the bigger things. And reap the benefits of this beautiful, empowering feeling of freedom we all know, when you got rid of a Hell, NO!. Breathe in deeply, throw your shoulders back and shout out an unleashed “Hell, Yeah! This feels amazing! All this getting rid of that which doesn’t serve me!”

And it does feel amazing, doesn’t it?

I will leave you with it now, have fun diving into releasing what’s holding you back, and enjoy the newfound excitement and inspiration!

Until next time.

Yours truly, Heike 🤘🌊🤘